Love language is something we often hear about in the world of psychology, popularized by Gary Chapman. I had the idea for this post awhile back and I’ve struggled with how to put it together because I tend to try to avoid oversimplifications according to one aspect of our chart. However, I think there are a few ways to look at this and it’s always good to explore how we might better support our partners and the VIP’s in our life. I also want to clarify that most of us will have 2-3 prominent love languages. In addition, we each have an amalgamation of needs based on various combinations of astrological placements and elements of our Design (like Variables + Profiles) as well as how we were nurtured. This is just a jumping off point to explore + potentially open up communication. Gaining awareness around how to support our people can not only offer us a deeper, more intimate connection and ease in our relationships, but also more patience for the dynamics of our unique combined energy, and more permission for our partners to be more fully themselves.

Find out my why’s for the energy type love language associations above, below, + some additional ways to support the folks in your life. I added the Moon signs b/c the Moon is the most personal planet and it is how we feel deeply nourished. While I will try to dismount from my “stop ignoring the importance of the Moon sign” soap box here, I will say that the Moon is how we relate to each other, which feels pretty important when it comes to our relationships (maybe even more so than the simplified relationship astrology we often see based on our Sun signs…ok, now I”m done ;).

GENERATORS

Physical touch is about intimacy, fostering deeper connection on the physical level, releasing some oxytocin. It can be about sexual connection but also non-sexual affection. I selected touch for Generators because anytime you can help a Sacral being (MG’s included) get their focus out of their heads and into their bodies, you are supporting them. You will also find this is true for many folks with certain emotional waves, that touch can be the thing to melt their defenses. You can additionally nourish Generators (+MG’s) by asking them yes and no questions so they can feel into their intuitive response and follow their joy. And, you can nourish Sacral folks by helping them get their energy out at the end of the day. One of the quickest ways to flush out excess sacral energy is with an orgasm.

Also think: Taurus + Scorpio moons for touch + physical closeness

MANIFESTING GENERATORS

Quality time is spending time with your loved one, giving them all of your attention (putting the devices away). This also includes active listening, good communication + thoughtful conversation (which is why you see Gemini down there ;). I selected quality time because Man Gen’s are often flitting about, staying busy (which we don’t want to judge or try to change) and can be helped by a time out from the going, going with some Q.T. MG’s need to play and anytime you can remind them of this + even do it with them, it’s a win. As Sacral beings they would benefit from all of the Generator support as well.

Also think: Gemini, Cancer, Sagittarius + Pisces moons for QT

PROJECTORS

Words of affirmation is about verbal validation, appreciation, encouragement and recognition. This is definitely one of their main love languages, as recognition is written into their Aura. Tell them how much you appreciate them, help them to feel seen and heard. This is also a way you can deeply nourish Projector children… offer them recognition before they have to ask for it.

Invite them into your life and also honor when they need down time or rest without putting judgement on them.

Also think: Aries + Leo moons for words of affirmation

Manifestors (+ REFLECTORS)

I chose gifts for Manifestors simply because it can be a way to encourage their creativity and also to offer them love while still giving them freedom and allowing them to initiate in other ways (I could just as easily have selected acts of service and put gifts for Reflectors because this is about offering gifts that are meaningful to your partner, which is about showing them they are truly seen). Show them a little appreciation when they get home with a well thought out gift or by drawing them a bath for some much needed down time emptying out.

While it is a Manifestors Strategy to Inform it is helpful for both members of the relationship to do so, to utilize it as a gateway in to greater intimacy as well as creating ease where there might otherwise be conflict.

Also think Libra + Capricorn moons for gifts

reflectors (+ MANIFESTORS)

I picked acts of service for Reflectors because they are so nourished by the element of surprise as it is their emotional theme. While they need their partner to honor their requirement for time alone + rest, creating a well timed surprise can be just the thing to express your love. This could even be time spent creating a space in your home that is just for them or helping them to step into + honor their correct Environment. ;) Acts of service is somehow making life a little easier for your partner and is perfectly aligned for those folks who believe actions speak louder than words.

You see the Signs below are often associated with service + giving which is why they benefit from some balance. They tend to give A LOT and are nourished by getting some in return.

Also think Cancer, Virgo + Aquarius moons for acts of service

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