the inner path
five
purpose through relationship
If you have not yet spent time really working with the first 4 modules in The Meeting Ground, I recommend doing so before moving on. Those first 4 are important and make up your four primary gifts and 70% of your energy. Spend time with them, contemplate, marinate, get curious. They are also always there to come back to and we absolutely should revisit and explore them regularly.
If you feel you’ve looked at your Shadows within those energies and have a basic understanding of their vibrations, and have taken time to integrate and ground the energies within the physical body, then welcome to No. 5: Purpose through Relationship.
We are now moving into the subtle realms of the emotional body for the next several modules. This is not meant to be a mental journey (or a rushed one) but an embodied one, one connected to the energetics, to the feels. To work in this energy we need to be able hold a compassionate container for ourselves, to parent, forgive, nurture and be gentle when needed.
If you have the Gene Keys book as suggested, for tapping much deeper into these energies, Richard Rudd recommends that you read #22 whether you have it defined or not as, “at its heart lies the question of human suffering”, and that, ya know, wee topic, is what we’re are getting into.
UNCONSCIOUS earth
We begin by looking at our Unconscious Earth through a different lens, that of the heart, of relationships, of our dharma woven down our ancestral line through our DNA. This is the suffering stitched into the fabric of our beings. And we can always hold the intention, which I recommend, to heal these energies for our ancestral line (backwards and forwards).
This energy is a portal for us between the physical plane and our emotional life.
All of our relationships are an opportunity to connect to our higher purpose. Relationships are by nature challenging and in those challenges lie lessons. When we listen, when we bring awareness to the stirred emotions, when we pause before we react, when we tap into acceptance and grace, it is a moment for transformation and stepping closer to the fulfillment of our purpose on the Earth plane.
Our relationships are our greatest teachers. It’s much easier to “do the work” on ourselves when we’re alone because we’re not contending with the mirror of another person. But those mirrors are a great asset. They reflect back how far we’ve come and the steps we may still need to take.
Diving into the realm of our emotions will take patience and a steadfast intention to keep our hearts open. These are subtle energies and they transform through subtlety as well. We can take our time. We should take our time. We can take a break and revisit it. We can circle back around for deeper or different understandings. We can take time to integrate and let the dust settle.
It’s important to note that this is a foundational energy, and bringing it into alignment (or not) influences the balance of the rest of our charts.
You should have already unpacked this Gate in Module 4. If not, go back and visit it through that prism first before looking at it through this perspective.
shadow
The Shadow of your Dharma is one that needs to be acknowledged and accepted. It will reveal to you a low vibration that plays itself out in your relationship challenges. Until we can really see we are going to keep going round and round in the same drama.
In the book Letting Go, David Hawkins talks about the fact that almost all of our low vibrational emotions come with a sense of guilt and this is probably very true with this Shadow, which means that any guilt shadows around this energy are ones you will also want to bring to the light.
These Shadows are not our fault, we’re not perpetuating any of these habits on purpose. These are coping mechanisms we learned early on, written into our genetic coding. And the more awareness we bring, the more opportunity we have to rewire them, to shift the energy into its high vibration.
These shadows reveal the inner work we will repeat over and over until we have fully integrated and accepted it. This comes from fully opening our heart to this challenge. Every time we recognize and become aware of a Shadow and we accept and embrace it, we unlock another gift within our DNA.
This isn’t something to be fixed and then move on. These are the challenges we face over and over in our life. The healing that isn’t linear but a spiral, we circle back around, heal on a deeper level, unlock another gift. The more we continue to open and accept, the deeper we go and the more shadows and gifts we are able to reach.
This is the the embodiment of as below, so above; as within, so without. The internal unpacking is represented in our outer reality.
gift
As you work with your Shadow, it is important to hold its Gift (and Highest Vibration) in the same container.
When we form relationships we are combining auras, energies. In Human Design we are actually completing each other in a way. We attract people with defined gates on the other end of ours (making channels) and with centers that we do not have defined. We draw to us those that will bring more consistent energy, activating different archetypes within. When we combine energies sometimes it is comforting, sexual, friendly, challenging. Many times we get to tap into gifts we wouldn’t otherwise have consistent access to.
For the purposes of this work, see how much you can shift your perspective to view your relationships as an opportunity for your own evolution and up-leveling. Keep committing to opening your heart and bringing awareness, knowing that a lot of creative energy is released when we combine auric energies.
In understanding this energy in our charts we become more aware of our own part, we rewire our own reactionary patterns, we take responsibility, and we surrender, unlocking the higher vibrational gifts.
The highest vibration is essentially attained enlightenment. It is said that the act of seeking enlightenment is still a form of shadow. I touch briefly on the highest vibration b/c I think it’s a seed we plant toward spiritual realization. It’s not something we try to attain. When we reach for it, we are playing into Shadow.
With this energy you reach the highest vibration through EMBODIMENT.
Lines
The line for this energy is the number after the decimal point of the gate. So if the number in the second box down of the red left column says 44.2, then your purpose through relationship is in gate 44, line 2. The corresponding line colors your inner narrative. These lines have to do with how you react or respond to your dharma in this life. We can use our relationships to help us transmute our Shadows to Gifts.
Line 1
The Shadow of Line is motivated by the desire to feel secure. This can play out in an internalized or externalized way. You may be someone who has trouble standing up for yourself or who tends to force your point of view on those in your life.
These folks are driven by a need for security and tend to take a view inward which can border on self absorption + emotional detachment if left unchecked.
The Gift of the Line 1 is anchored in confidence. Healthy boundaries + personal power and compassionate autonomy. You are able to listen to the needs of others and empathize. You stand up for yourself in a kind and graceful manner.
At the highest frequency your confidence engenders security in those around you.
Contemplate: How might my need for security be getting in my way?
Line 2
The Shadow of Line 2 is hiding away or being reactive. It is related to our spine and posture so when existing in Shadow, the body can lack lustre and core strength. The Shadow can play out in an internalized or externalized way. You may tend to bury your head and ignore reality, refusing to hear “the other side”, or you may respond in dramatic outbursts cultivating divisiveness.
With this energy there is typically a lack of awareness, you may have no idea just how strongly you affect people. You may find you get caught up in drama and get stuck in strong emotional default settings. You may find you project your pain onto others rather than taking accountability for your own feelings and actions. One needs to bring awareness and choose to process the emotions rather than letting them run the show.
The Gift of Line 2 is anchored in spontaneity. You are able to respond to life as it comes, and are very tuned into your emotions. You are able to go with the flow. Folx are comfortable in your easy going aura.
At the highest frequency you influence those around you to feel chill just by being you.
Contemplate: Am I aware of how I affect others? Am I taking responsibility for my feelings or am I projecting them on others?
Line 3
The Shadow of Line 3 can play out in an internalized or externalized way. You may tend to divert attention away from yourself or create emotional chaos. As we know, with three lines, one cannot compare your life to others. When you seek the kind of security you see in those around you you will be disappointed. Your life is not meant to mirror others, and the fact that it doesn’t says nothing about your inherent worth. If you have any Shadow around unworthiness you can feel overwhelmed by your emotions and go to extremes to avoid conflict, or anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, hence the escape artist.
Make sure you are not using sarcasm or humor to deflect, or creating drama that you then flee from.
The Gift of the 3 Line is revealed when you are honest with and able to laugh at yourself. You accept the adventure and embrace the uncertainty of your life. You have compassion for yourself and release any fear around commitment. You recognize your human-ness and commit to your own authenticity.
At the highest frequency your enthusiasm for life is infectious.
Contemplate: Where am I avoiding commitment?
Line 4
The Shadow of Line 4 is rejecting first to avoid rejection. This energy can play out in an internalized or externalized way. You may find you get emotionally numb or cold or you may be reactive cutting someone off in hurtful ways. Four Lines have the ability to use their social gifts to conceal their own fears or pain. They are highly emotional beings but don’t always appear to be because they are excellent at hiding their feelings. They can be riding an emotional rollercoaster but appear to be totally fine on the outside.
When things get tough they may experience their heart closing and a turning inward into a feeling of numbness. They unconsciously close their heart as a protective mechanism.
The Gift of Line 4 is found through tenderness. When we tap into this higher vibration we are gentle with ourselves + we are able to connect deeply with others. We learn how to notice when we are moving into the Shadow of numbness, through no fault of our own, and we can pull ourselves out and choose to open our hearts rather than shut down, either by taking some time to ourselves or acknowledging that it’s happening and asking for compassionate assistance.
The highest vibration is helping others to accept themselves through your unique combination of softness and strength.
Contemplate: Where/How am I avoiding deep connection?
Line 5
The Shadow of Line 5 is that victim vibe. This energy can play out in an internalized or externalized way. You may find you get locked into self pity or that you project your Shadow making other feel like the victim. While all Shadow states are part of victim consciousness, this line encapsulates this archetype. This energy can get caught up in the trappings of a self created illusion or in feeling sorry for itself. As Line 5 is connected to the Throat, one might voice their complaints with regularity, spinning them into stories of why you should feel sorry for them. The reactive state is one tied to anger, lashing out by belittling others, projecting their victim state onto them.
The Gift of Line 5 is anchored in seeing things clearly. When operating from this higher vibration they have clarity and can use this knowing to help others. Moving into the Gift frequency means releasing any co-dependency and being able to clearly see themselves, tapping into that powerful and influential voice of theirs.
The highest vibration is stepping into a natural state of leadership offering solutions through their own clarity and desire to help others achieve their own agency.
Contemplate: How do I need to release victim mentality and take responsibility for my life?
Line 6
The Shadow of Line 6 is in judgement This energy can play out in an internalized or externalized way. You may find yourself lacking interest altogether or you may use your powerful intellect to make others feel small. Line 6 can use this coping mechanism to separate themselves from others through their judgments, as they, more than any other line, can find themselves feeling quite detached.
6 lines can easily get caught up or take refuge in their minds rather than deal with their feels and their aloofness can make them appear arrogant. While they don’t typically deliberately set out to make others feel small, using their intellect feels safe. It’s much easier for them to think about things logically than engage with their emotional truth.
The Gift of Line 6 is a deep trust in life. The main way you tap into the high vibration of this energy is by trusting: trusting yourself, trusting the Universe, trusting in divine timing, trusting in the people you are in relationship with. Trust. Build that muscle. This also means trusting that the way you feel is perfectly right, right now. Allow yourself to take the time you need to find the feel and let the interested parties in your life know when you need that time to figure it out (in your body, not your mind). Cultivate patience and also ask for it. You have a well of feeling inside you, it’s just about giving yourself the time you need to access it.
The highest vibration is a surrender and trust in yourself and life, inspiring others to do the same. With patience your mind will work in harmony with your feelings offering you great insight.
Contemplate: How is judgement getting in my way?
THE HOUSE
If you want to know the House of your Unconscious Design you can get a membership to Genetic Matrix. This is the software I use. Or you can grab a snapshot here of all of your Houses.
PRACTICE
Visit Shadow Support
Read over this and your gates info multiple times, contemplate the information here and there. What does it mean to you? How does the Shadow show up in your life? The gifts? How can you hold space for the highest vibration?
Get clear on your Shadows here through the tools in Cultivate Awareness in the Shadow module.
Explore other potential Shadows in the center where this gate stems from in Shadow in Your Definition.
Bring them through Decondition + Rewire, EFT and/or through addiction meditation here.
What other energetics and support are specific to your gate? What chakra would this energy be associated with? What energetic body? Do you need support with Boundaries? Seek the other ways you can align and nourish.
Know that this is ongoing exploration that will serve you again and again. You’re not meant to figure it all out right now. Sit with it, ponder, marinate, ask questions, notice how it shows up in your life, put it down, come back to it, dig deeper, peel back another layer. These elements will continue to unfold if you allow them. Keep moving toward the gift and high vibrations of the energy.
Create an affirmation of the high vibration of this energy. All energy in our charts wants to express itself so create a positive statement around the Gift energy that resonates with you to keep anchoring into and to check in with regularly so that you stay present with your Gifts.
Take good care of yourself.
Prompts
Look at your relationships. What might they be here to teach you?
How do you respond to, process through your own suffering?
Are you reactive in your life or is there space for grace?
Is there anywhere in your life where you still get stuck in victim consciousness?
Where are you repeating the same patterns again and again?
Is your heart open? Are you able to keep it open in conflict?
Are there any archetypes or myths that you feel resonate with the energy of your Unconscious Earth?
Meditate on these energies. Sit and breathe. Let it roll around in your mind like a marble.
Get creative. Write a story or poem, collage, sing, choreograph, dance, cook, daydream, walk in nature, sit with the trees, start a convo, paint, create from this energetic space.
ADDITIONAL support
Tools for deconditioning and processing our emotions
Get in your body. Meditate on these energies. Breathe the higher vibrations into your being. Practice awareness and pausing before reacting.
Dance through these energies. If this energy was movement, what would it look like?
The Heart Chakra
