our openness
and not self
Our openness can be a beautiful thing. We are not limited in these places. We have access to the vast spectrum of experiencing these archetypes. We get to play in the energy, in infinite expressions. These are places we can develop sacred wisdom + they are places where we need to build trust in the Universe, in the unknown.
It’s when we take things on that do not serve us and become solid with them that they become a problem. There are many ways we can become conditioned, through our openness. As a Projector you may feel conditioned to work long hours or feel guilty for feeling or being called “lazy”. As a Generator you may have trouble following what lights you up because you’re trying to please everyone around you. As a Reflector you may feel invisible. As a Manifesting Generator you may have been told you lacked focus or even got a diagnosis of ADD as a child. As a female presenting Manifestor, you may be labeled a bitch for qualities that are admired in men. The list goes on and on. And you may be a Generator with a lot of Projected channels in which case, fear of being perceived as lazy is something you may carry as well.
Our Splits are another place to look. If you have Split definition, explore the energy of the Gates that would bridge your Splits. There is often a feeling of chasing this energy or somehow feeling incomplete or less than without it. It is where a lot of Not Self energy can live, deeper wounds and can drive our motivation in life. You may find you actively seek out or pursue this energy, that something feels like it’s missing. If you are seeking it from the motivation of solving, fixing, attaching to, needing this energy to feel whole, it is Shadow. But it doesn’t have to be, we can follow our Strategy + Authority to naturally attract and find relationships that bridge our Splits in healthy ways as well.
If you have a Wide Split, pay attention to the themes that seem to be everyone else’s problem except yours. Where might you be projecting this wound? Pay attention to where you may be pointing blame and approach with some curiosity and an opportunity to practice healthy non-attachment.
With all Splits we should look at the ways we may be identifying with the Split and look to our connections in life to see what energy that person is calling out of us.
As I prompted in the previous module, I would also look at the charts, if possible, of the people you grew up around. If say your Dad has a Center or Channel defined that you do not, this is an area where you would be vulnerable to taking on or leaning into Not Self characteristics. This may be particularly potent with Splits.
We can always ask ourselves, about anything, is this mine?
We hear most about conditioning in our Open Centers. Explore this piece below. You can find out your open centers by visiting My Bodygraph. There will be 9 shapes in the bodygraph and most likely some will be white and others will be colored in (color doesn’t matter). The white centers are your undefined or open centers.
**Side note: These centers/like the Chakras are archetypal containers. You may have a defined Crown but are struggling with the unknown or feel pressured right now to have it all figured out in which case you can absolutely still use the supports below to your benefit.
dig in
When talking about emptying out we are really just looking for outlets for energy to move. You may have an open Crown but really resonate with a tool for an Open Sacral. Follow that impulse, listen to what you need. There are no rules. Here are lots of general practices for clearing.
The tools in healthy boundaries are helpful for any openness in our chart.