We’ve probably all at this point heard the saying “how we do anything, is how we do everything”. Nothing feels more apt and appropriate for Virgo vibes, making magic in the mundane, and the ways in which the actions we take, thoughts we think on a loop, settings we default to, emotions we marinate in and broadcast, ultimately create our reality. It is not the big choices at forks in the road that typically are most impactful, but the small habits repeated every day. The stories we write. The paths we wear into the Earth from treading the same steps. The ways in which we are intentional about our lives, or not. The routines + rituals and the ways in which we honor our containers, the literal representation of our human experience, or not. Virgo invites us at its core to take responsibility for our own existence.

It’s always interesting to observe our own behavior + patterns. I’ve always been totally open about the ways in which I get caught up in my own conditioning on my own path to greater authentic individuation. The times when I over rode my inner authority and made decisions with my mind. All the times I leapt with no net before I really understood the needs of my 2/4 profile. And the ways in which I have allowed myself to succumb to the pressure of my open crown, ajna + especially my open root.

And, I did a bit of overriding again this week. Two minutes into a session I started to experience some ovarian pain, the familiar whispers growing in decibel of a cyst rupturing. As someone who has dealt with a lot of physical pain in my life I can be pretty masterful at concealing it. But it was so intense I was short of breath, and I’m not gonna lie, even then, I had to push over a little hurdle to acknowledge that to my new client. They were of course very understanding and said if I needed to hop off it was no problem, to take care of me. In which case the correct response might have been, “thank you so much, I’ll reach out to reschedule”, but instead I said “I think I’ll be ok it’s dimming a bit”. My primary concern is always to offer the best service I can so I was not thinking about my own needs or how I wanted to honor my own body and experience, but rather whether I would be off my game or unable to be completely present. Ironically I’ve often found, like when I was acting, when I didn’t feel good it was actually easier to detach from my Self, my Ego, and be more in the now. There’s nothing like physical pain to bring you into the present.

So my body accepted its minuscule acknowledgement and compartmentalized, the pain pushed into another room where it was felt but not fully experienced, something I’ve totally trained it to do and I carried on. It was a sweet connection and a great session AND as soon as I closed my laptop an intensified wave of pain came crashing into me and I had to crawl, literally, across the house and into a hot bath. My body did as I’ve trained it to do. It got me through. Our bodies are such magic.

AND if I was being tested, I for the most part, failed. I have no problem or charge around that word because I have awareness, I am learning as I go, each edge is information, if I’m open to receiving it. I gave in to the pressure of my open root to finish what I started and then, only then, would I allow myself to honor my own needs. I gave in to the wounds of my Chiron placement. To the lower vibrations of my Aries moon. It’s a lesson many of us continue to learn.

I was on a call the other day where women were sharing around healing and the ways in which we can be a dictator over our own bodies. The ways we can other them, punish them, ignore them, feel annoyed or even hate their limitations, their flaws. The ways we can focus on what’s not working rather than the miraculousness that is. This in itself becomes a form of self hatred. We forget that every cell in our body is a microcosm of the macrocosm. That the wholeness of the Universes resides in each one, the ocean in a drop, the future in the small actions we take today. Learning to really love, which includes honoring the needs of, our containers is such a massive part of our deconditioning. Whether we are deconditioning from our own pressures, from societal views around beauty, productivity, or even the stories society informs us around aging and dis-ease, because it’s all exactly that, a story. All bodies are beautiful. And we can all feel great in our bodies at any age.

I’m still on my path to unwinding the Not Self of my open root. The voice that tells me to cross x task off the todo list before I get more water or break for lunch even though my body is telling me it’s thirsty or hungry. The ways I stay connected to screens when I can feel my body begging me to go for a walk. The ways I get caught up in the Not Self narrative ‘that finishing just this one more thing will take away the pressure’, when I know deep down it’s about making friends with that feeling, a feeling that is simply part of my existence. We’re all on our own paths. And each of our paths should include loving the body that carries us through this human experience. Imagine if every day rather than complaining about our aches and pains or amplifying frustration with our current circumstances, we bathed our cells in love + gratitude. We saw the beauty in our imperfections. We dialogued with our discomfort and invited what it was here to communicate. What if we softened rather than hardened. We honored and listened. How might this grow trust and capacity? How might the simple act of love set us free?

Healing + deconditioning are both a journey. It took me 40 years to stop trying to “fix myself”, to be in acceptance of my own path and to really invite that conversation with my soma. To acknowledge that this is my path back to remembering my limitlessness. That “fixing” energy gets me more of the same. And I am still learning to be gentler with myself, to be more loving, tender. Over the past few years I can feel something really shifting and I’ve learned a lot along my own path. While healing (and deconditioning) are definitely not one size fits all, a Virgo New Moon feels like a particularly sweet time to share around some of my most favorite foundational practices and resources for supporting our health + vitality:

cellular hydration. Non-negotiable and one I’m still troubleshooting. Pretty much everyone on the planet is dehydrated. My new love is hydrogen, but this woman is my favorite resource for all things deepening your relationship to + nourishing the waters of your body.
fascia unwinding - also key to hydration and releasing the trauma woven into the fabric of our beings.
sunlight + syncing yourself with natures rhythms which means sunlight in your bare eyes and on your bare skin at sunrise, sunset, and during the day. It also means blue blocking technology, incandescent bulbs or red lights and candles at night, etc..
frequency support b/c literally EVERYTHING is a frequency and yours is all the things.
nutrient dense foods + shopping at farmers markets.
moving your body daily, intentionally, honoring the way your body is designed and is asking to be moved. If you have a siting job, getting up every hour and moving.
supporting your detox pathways physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
human connection.
hunting for beauty + flirting with life.
getting into nature and around Earth + Ocean waters often.
amplifying abundance over lack.
whispering sweet nothings in your own ear.
being + expressing the most authentic version of yourself.
that the Nervous System is such a massive piece for most of us, and especially if you have an Open Root, Mercury debilitated, etc…
emptying out daily and healthy boundaries to limit/avoid becoming solid with what is not ours including our own emotions which are energy, not the wholeness of who we are.
that we need to focus on the infinite not the finite.

A few favorite books are:

The Body Keeps The Score
The Upside of Stress
The Simplicity of Self Healing
A Happy Pocket Full of Money because the same principles of wealth apply to all areas of prosperity in our lives including our health.

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Dear Body Virgo Moon